I do not care what household you were brought up in. If it was a household or not a household. If it was a loving or abusive household. If it was very worldly household or if it was very religious household. If it was an orthodox or progressive household. In all cases, you were told fairy tales, myths, or hopeful dreams of a far-off utopia. Somehow you were told what to believe in by your guardians, and their beliefs included how you could get to a happy place.

No way, you say. There are honest parents that try very hard to raise their children on to be upright and without fairy tales. Some of them must have achieved something close to an honest reality. They believe in reality and they raise their children to live in a real world. Makes sense, does it not?

OK, are you sure you want to stick with that? Are you willing to take a very serious look at what the difference is between reality and a fairy tale? What is reality? What do we do when your sense of reality and my sense of reality differ? Which one is a fairy tale? Who decides?

Here is one for you. Why are there seven days in a week? Whose story about how we started using seven days to a make week is the right story? None. There is no law of nature, science, society, or government that makes a week seven days long. You have to bridge some sort of gap in logic to explain why a week is seven days. But, in reality, there are seven days in the week. Right—or is it just a construct? A construct that is dependent upon a fairy tale. As a matter fact, many different types of fairy tales the world over. Fairy tales so ingrained in all of us that it would destroy us to undo them.

Wait, did you get that? Reality as understood is based on fairy tales so ingrained that reality would fall apart if it became only reality and not also a fairy tale. Did you get that?

Let’s try kayaking. It is very simple. The boat floats on the water and you paddle to move the boat forward. That is reality. A very dependable scientific fact that we can reproduce repeatedly. And you say, “Take that, you fairy tale demon!”

Do you have any idea how many gaps in logic you just achieved to believe in that simple reality? There is a very complex set of chemical bonds, electrical force fields, and physical laws that must function in a very consistent way for the boat to even just float on the water. Another reasonable so-called reality is that whole of the boat, you, and the water would collapse into a black hole. Also, there is a tremendous coordination of training, skill, and function for you to move the paddle. Then that training needs to run through an extremely complex structure of bones, muscle, and more water in your body so the paddle can move through the water on the outside of the boat. Another reality is that you tip the kayak, knock yourself out with the paddle, and find yourself in the belly of a whale which your mother-in-law records on a video and submits to America’s Funniest Videos.

So, did you get it this time?

Ok, this is what we know so far. It takes a fairy tale belief to even enjoy an afternoon out in the reality of kayaks, waterways, and blue herons. That no matter how hard we try, your reality is never going to equal my reality. Also, no matter how hard we try some portion of our reality is based on gaps in logic that we fill in with fairytales.

So, the conclusion cannot be between truth and lies because we all believe in and pass on fairy tales. We all have been lied to. We all have passed on fairy tales (lies) as reality (truth).

So is there another way of looking at the way we bridge our gaps in logic. Thank goodness there is.

• First, admit you do not know the answers, that you are but one piece of a complex interconnected universe that functions just fine with or without you.
• There is no reality that you can understand that will ever explain everything about how you can even read this blog post.
• Accept that we all lie.
• That we all pass on lies as truth.
• That the lies we believe as truth make it impossible for us to know whether someone else is telling the truth or not. This is important.

Can we now take it up a level?

• There are good lies, neutral lies, and bad lies.
• The majority opinion on what is a bad lie is not always correct.
• A repeatable action is a useful tool but not always accurate.
• Looking at things from different sides is a very important tool but not absolute.
• Reasoning, empathy, and common sense are all needed but do not always lead us in the right direction.
• We can never get to an honest completely true reality, but we most likely do have a single simple piece that will help others.
• Everyone else has a single piece of truth that we are missing and need. Our own internal selfishness is the only thing that cannot accept this principle.
• Our piece can be combined with other pieces to build a bigger piece.

Then what can we do? If none of these completely remove the bad lies from the foundation of our thinking and reality, then what can? One thing can help. It can only be used on ourselves. It can basically never be used on others. By looking at the what is the motivation to why we bridge the gap the way we do.

Is the motivation to promote self or is the motivation in harmony with the needs and concerns of others? This is the question we need ask ourselves. If our science, our economic behavior or our doctrine is out of harmony with the principles of love then we need to change them until they are in harmony with the principles of love. In time all that are out of harmony with the principle of love will be determined to be unprofitable and destructive to our reality and human existence.

This is my piece. I have seen this repeatedly in all kinds of data and in the gaps of logic that work. Love is much more than an emotion or a principle. It is the force/bridge that can be used in any gap to build a stronger reality. One that is built on fairy tales in a healthy way.

This is the founding principle of BRG Street Concepts and hence a major piece of BRG Street Community.

Would you like to know more information? We have a team-building, concept to action, roundtable seminar called LOVE_ARC that is based on this principle and other principles to use individual pieces to build bigger pieces.

• L-isten
• O-bserve
• V-oice
• E-valuate
• _ – a to-be-determined step that helps move the group to action
• A-ction
• R-eview
• C-elebrate